Sabotaging Your Own Dream

Self-sabotage is when we say we want something and then go about making sure it doesn’t happen.” ~ Alyce P. Cornyn-Selby

Do you find yourself falling short of achieving your dream time and time again,?  Granted, there are some things that happened that are just out of your control, but what if you are the one at fault?


You constantly procrastinate, or you talk yourself out of it because you believe someone else can do it better or that you’re not good or able-body enough to do it.  Or, you’re seemingly well on your way to succeeding on a particular passion project when suddenly, you dropped the ball and it all falls to pieces.

Sounds familiar?

According to Psychology Today, “behavior is said to be self-sabotaging when it creates problems and interferes with long-standing goals.”   It’s the same kind of behavior that we consistently participate in that causes us to self-destruct any dream we attempt to bring to reality.

For writers, this comes in the form of the inner critic.

Your work will never be good enough.

No one will want to read that. 

That idea has been done before so don’t even bother.

How do you stop this behavior?

The most important aspect in successfully ending the self-sabotaging behavior is awareness.  Become aware and acknowledge the certain behaviors that are holding you back, and then separate yourself from those negative thoughts and actions.  It’s a process that if practiced often enough, you can finally be free of the self-defeating behaviors and focus on the things that matter: your dreams.






  1. Good point, Carrie. I don’t know anyone who doesn’t have those doubts every time they sit down at the computer or pick up a pen. It does help to take the negative thoughts and let them go into the sky. Best of luck with your writing.

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