I was a 70s child, and spent the entire preteen and teen-aged years during the 80s. There are some things to be said having grown up in the heart of Adirondack mountains during this period.
One, you only got four channels on the television, if you were lucky. So, I didn’t experience MTV until much later in life.
Two, really good doctors were few and far between.
I was born seemingly healthy, in all appearance-wise that is. By the time I was about two years old, it became apparent to my parents that I wasn’t developing normally.
I startled easily.
I wasn’t responding to stimuli like a “normal” child would.
I got frustrated over the simplest things and threw frequent temper tantrums.
My speech development was on par, for an one-year old.
For the next few years, they took me to see various specialists across New York and Vermont, but no one could tell them what was really wrong with me. One particular specialist blatantly told my parents that I had serious behavioral issues and should see a shrink.
On I went to Kindergarten.
It was probably a few months into the school year when the teacher, Mrs. Siglin, pulled my Mom aside and said that I was practically unteachable. I wasn’t listening to anything she was saying during class. I was abruptive, and rude to the other kids.
Mom, in tears, had to pull me from school.
As a last resort, my parents took me to see an audiologist, Ms. Audrey.
She put me through a series of tests, and then had me sit in a sound-proof room, with a headphone on. She then amplified the sound of my voice.
Something happened that hadn’t happened before.
I began to jabber incoherently at first, and then my words grew clearer and concise.
Ms. Audrey turned to my bewildered parents and explained that I had moderate hearing loss in both ears.
I was almost six years old, and for the first time in my life, I heard the sound of my own voice.
So, I was almost six years old when I was diagnosed with nerve deafness. I received my first behind-the-ear hearing aid shortly after the initial visit with Ms. Audrey. The device helped as I was finally able to hear the sounds around me more clearly. I could finally hear myself talk as well as whoever was trying to talk to me.
I was now able to understand and learn in school.
It certainly was not a “cure-all” as I was still very much a loner. An outsider.
I spent the next two or three years attending speech therapy at a distant school. About twice a week, a transportation vehicle would come and pick me up at the tiny private school I attended, and took me fifteen miles away to a moderate size elementary public school where I met with my speech therapist for our one-hour sessions. Then I would board a public school bus with kids I didn’t know which took me home.
The speech therapy sessions helped, but I still spoke funny.
My accent was odd. Out-of-place.
People, kids looked at me with strange expressions.
I felt very much alone most of the time.
Imaginary friends helped me through this period, as they would throughout my life. Even as an adult, I still have imaginary friends.
Does that make me strange?
An outsider who’s not quite all there?
Hmm…yeah, I guess so.
And you know the funny part about all this?
I’m fine with it. Totally and completely.
Because I have an excuse to be strange and odd, and what’s that word that a coworker once used to describe me?
However, by the time I was eleven I’d developed a slight problem with having imaginary friends. I started to act out some of the things they wanted me to do or where they wanted me to go.
Adventures in other lands. Or, more like misadventures.
Like this one time when I was playing with my various superhero friends when one of them convinced me that I was Wonder Woman and could leap over a line of six chairs. I almost cleared them all. I ended up straddling a rocking chair and spent that evening in the ER.
When I was eleven my best friend was Melanie. She was a red-head with a fiery temper. I can’t remember what sparked the idea but she put out a challenge to see who could write the best short story. I took the challenge and wrote a story about a haunted house where a girl went in to explore and found a decapitated head in the fridge. Pretty morbid, but this particular challenge altered my life forever.
That day I learned there were other ways of participating in adventures with my imaginary friends; not to mention, much safer.
I didn’t know it at the time, but the writer within me was born.
“Many people hear voices when no one is there. Some of them are called mad and are shut up in rooms where they stare at the walls all day. Others are called writers and they do pretty much the same thing.”-Margaret Chittenden