Detours

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“The road had detours, stop signs, missed turns, hills and valleys, deep, deep tangled forests, ruts and potholes, icy patches, and spin-outs along the way.” -Jazz Feylynn

 

I notice that the older I get, the more reflective and contemplative I become.

Not necessarily a bad thing; but, it tends to be painful at times.

Regrets.  So many of them.

It’s amazing how one’s past can ruin the future if you dwell on it for too long.

My fear is ending up a bitter old woman like my grandmother.   Her own family (parents) were unfair to her and she allowed that to poison her.  In turn, she lashed out on her own family (husband and children), and ended up alone and miserable in a nursing home.  Her last days were tormentous I’ve been told.

No, I do NOT want to end up like her.  Allowing regrets to poison my heart and soul.  To end up dying all alone when I’m not truly alone.

As a child, you have such dreams and hopes for the future; only to have them tainted or crushed by various circumstances of which many were out of your control.

In life, there are many roads; almost limitless.  Each road you choose to follow takes you through various types of terrains.  And on occasions, you’ll come across a detour that takes you well out-of-the-way.  Some detours bring unexpected joy and amazing experiences; while others only result in pain and heartache.

In the end, it is up to us to choose how we’ll react to these detours.

For many years, between the age of 21 and 44, I chose anger, resentment, and anxiousness.  These served me poorly.  I found no peace in them; just this growing misery that slowly ate away my heart and soul.

I got so tired of feeling negative about everything.  I longed for peace, and calmness.  I desired to use the various experiences in my life to help others.  To let them know that there is more to life than misery.  That there is beauty, and hope.  All that’s required is faith, and never stop believing in dreams.

“Embrace the detours for they are the keys to discovering yourself.” -unknown author

 

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The Road of Life

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At what point in life should you stop dreaming?  Middle-age?  Or, older perhaps?

Ever seen a person who’s given up? The sight is difficult to take in.

Painfully so.

Me, I gave up on my dreams when I was twenty-one.  Today, twenty-six years later, I’m struggling to reclaim those dreams.

As I study the image above, I find myself wishing that life was as straight a road as this, and that the sun shines constantly.  Unfortunately, that’s not how life works.

The road is winding with death-defying curves as it traverses through steep valleys and dark, treacherous mountains.   There is no map available to help us navigate our way safely; and because of that, many of us never reach our intended destination.

Which sucks.

But…

Life also taught me to expect the unexpected.   That if one door closes on a dream, another one opens.   In other words, dreams never die…they just change their shapes.  We just need to learn how to recognize them.

The key?

No matter what life throws at you, never ever give up.